Last week a colleague’s daughter told me she was going to be an engineer princess when she grows up. She went on to tell me what she would need to do and wear, and who she would help.
When did you and I start lacking this sort of confidence? When did we stop believing our parents, who said we could do anything, be anything?
We may see and experience the harsh realities of the world, but we cannot allow that to defeat us.Think back to when you were a child. Long before you realized life isn’t fair, you saw the good in others without being told to look for it, you had an open mind, you saw without making judgments, you repeatedly asked “why” and “how” to anyone who’d engage, and you readily created.
You created songs, and artwork, and experiments and characters within stories and probably words. You did this without overthinking, analyzing and worrying if what you had created was perfect. You didn’t know what failure was so you couldn’t be afraid of that either.
Fast forward to where we are today – self-conscious, afraid, feeling unworthy, unqualified. Filled with doubt, frustration and speaking words of “you can’t,” “you won’t,” “you aren’t” to our reflections in the mirror.
You wouldn’t say that to a little child, so why are you saying it to yourself?
We need to change our mindsets, starting today. Take out a pen and paper. Write, “I am” and insert your own word. Tape that piece of paper to a mirror. Read it aloud every time you are in front of your mirror. Next week, repeat this process with a different set of words.
Then, go spend some time with a child. They’re our greatest teachers.